You’ve Probably Done It Too
You try opening a door, but it won't budge.
And before realizing you should pull, you push harder first.

That’s how most of us treat our stuckness.

We feel foggy, tired, overwhelmed—so we try to fix the problem by thinking harder or working more.

It makes sense. Sort of.
But it doesn’t work.

Your mind is the one that created the knot.
It won’t be able to untangle it.

And yet we keep adding to the load:

• New habits
• More systems
• Another productivity tool

Like someone carrying a backpack that’s already too heavy—trying to add better straps and tougher padding instead of asking the real question:

Why am I carrying this in the first place?

Why Most Self-Help Doesn’t Actually Help

Reason 1: It’s Built to Sell, Not to Help

The course that promises you “10 epic methods to finally achieve inbox zero” will sell better than the course that asks you why you’d want inbox zero in the first place.

And that's what the self-help industry relies on: it sells a better backpack.
It hands you more things to carry.

It promises that this version of you—the more optimized one, the more spiritual one, the less emotional one—will finally be the one that works.

That, my dear friend, is the trap.

Because to sell you a broken map, the self-help guru first convinces you that you need a map at all.
They shape your self-image by suggesting you’re lazy.
That crazy extremes are the new normal—like everyone has 5% body fat, a million dollars, and a spotless home with a swimming pool.

Let me pop that bubble for you:
Nobody has all of these. Very few actually have even one.

So:

• You’re not lazy.
• You’re not broken.
• You don’t need to become someone else.

You’ve just been handed a map that doesn’t lead home.

Reason 2: Most Self-Help Confuses Movement with Progress

It teaches you how to hustle, how to push, how to look good being productive.

But clarity doesn’t shout. It whispers.

And you can’t hear it when you’re running full speed toward someone else’s finish line.

Here’s the Truth

You don’t need another identity.
You don’t need to optimize your suffering.
You don’t need to earn your right to rest.

You need to come back to center.
That’s where clarity lives.

Let’s look at a few ways to begin.

Option 1 – Stop Solving. Start Seeing.

It always starts by stopping.
By breathing.
By not trying to solve it the way you always do.

Clarity isn’t summoned through force. It arrives when you give it room.

Let the situation be.
Step back.
Look again—without fixing.

Your subconscious is the best supercomputer there is. But it needs space to work.

Let your nervous system settle.
Let divine intelligence (within and beyond you) speak.

Try:

• Spirit Animal Meditation
• The BAAS Method
• Prayer (not asking—but connecting)
• Walking, napping, journaling
• Hitting a punching bag or pushing a weight around

Then wait.
And when clarity comes—you’ll know.

P.S. (I'll link to any of these methods when I write more on them. If you want to be in the loop, you're more than welcome to sign up below.)

Option 2 – Drop the Backpack

Nobody has the goal of “carrying the backpack.”
And yet… that becomes the focus.

Instead of building a nourishing life around the campfire,
we obsess over carrying burdens more efficiently.

We start optimizing the weight, the straps, the endurance...
All while forgetting we’re allowed to put it down.

Sometimes clarity begins not by doing more—but by doing less.

Ask yourself:

• What do I want to achieve in the first place?
• What are the things I am doing that are not getting me there, and how can I drop these?
• What happens if I just… stop for a bit?

You'll find that carrying the backpack was never the point.
Chilling by the fire with a whiskey in your hand was.

Option 3 – Stop Chasing Completeness. Start Choosing Function.

You’re not a project.
You’re a person.

Most self-help feeds a false belief:
that if you just “fix all your parts,” you’ll finally be whole.
(Like you aren't whole to begin with, but that's for another day...)

Clarity isn’t about completeness.
It’s about finding a bit of peace in the chaos and the mess.

You don’t need a perfect map that shows every single detail.
You need a compass that works—a general direction.

The thing is, when you step back from the micromanagement, you’re giving the universe some space to work in your favor.
And believe me, it will when you do.

Sometimes the best thing you can do…
is put the book down and take a walk.

Final Words

You’re not stuck because you failed.
You didn't fail.

You’re stuck because the map was broken.
The only "mistake" you've made is that you bought the map from the wrong store.

The loudest voices aren’t always the ones you should be listening to.

And clarity doesn’t come from listening to them.
It comes from stepping back.
From choosing less.
From asking better questions.

This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about becoming quiet enough to remember who you are.

You don’t need a productivity method. You need a compass and some space.
You don’t need escape. You need to return.

And that path? It’s open. Right now.

Take a breath. Look around. And choose your next small step.

You’re always welcome by the campfire here—whenever you need to set your backpack down and breathe.

Have a great day, my friend.